The Best Advice Ever
"Your mind is the ignition; your heart is the engine" -
From The Art of Flipping the Switch by Alli McKee
In 2012, I had the privilege of working with Jill Coleman in her one-on-one, mind-body-business coaching program, the Best of You Coaching Club.
In one of our first coaching calls, I told Jill that I wanted to focus primarily on BUSINESS. More specifically, I wanted to get smarter about my day-to-day work/life balance. I was making all the classic fitness industry newbie mistakes: running myself ragged teaching classes and training clients, and generally running around like my hair was on fire 24/7. I needed someone to teach me how to work smarter because I was spinning my wheels and knew that burnout was inevitable.
Then I told Jill, "Oh, and I don't really want to work on the mind/body stuff."
AH! Listen to that. I was ALL BUSINESS! Quite the aspiring entrepreneur and not at ALL interested in petty things like my physique or fitness. No no no, not me. :)
I didn't want to waste the precious time in my coaching program on something as fleeting and superficial as my physique. After all, I'm a trainer, I have a nutrition certification - why would I need someone else to TELL ME what to do when I already had all the tools myself?
WAIT! I Changed My Mind
A few months later, the pressure of working in the fitness industry was starting to get to me. I spent a lot of time and energy worrying: "What if I'm not fit/strong/lean/ripped/good enough to be successful as a trainer?"
I needed help and insight from an outsider, an expert: so I turned to my coach for help with the one thing I swore I didn't need help with:
My body - no! Scratch that.
It was my mindset. That's what was really holding me back from my body looking and feeling the way I wanted.
And then, Jill gave me the best advice ever:
That was it. That was the advice. Those two words.
Jill told me to start owning my physique and owning my "leanness," a word I had never heard or used before, just the way I was, right then and there. I didn't need to lose a single ounce to start owning it. I was already there. And it started right then and there, in my head, with the beliefs I had about myself.
Then, I wake up the next day and do the things that a lean, fit person does because I already was a lean, fit person.
"But - no I'm not, see I don't even have a six pack yet and I --"
*Jill did not tell me to "shut it." I added that:) But she did tell me this:
YOU ALREADY ARE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME.
She told me to practice a tool known as Visualization. I would spend at least 10 minutes every day, visualizing the next day when I went to sleep each night. I would "see" what did I wanted to do, in great detail, exactly how I wanted it to play out.
I'm not gonna lie. My initial thought was something like, "What kind of new age, self-help, hippie-dippie crap is this?! Like laying in bed at night before you go to sleep and 'visualizing' your success actually WORKS?"
Then again, I knew my way wasn't working, so I figured what the heck?! I'll try this...
I did the visualization exercises. I started to believe that I was lean and fit, to act and live like I was already there:
I would wake up, my mind in "athlete mode" from the minute my feet hit the floor. I would grab my black coffee and my BCAAs, go to the gym, and get in my workout.
I stocked my fridge with meat and eggs, gobs of veggies, healthy fats, and good carbs. If I didn't cook at home, I knew I had plenty of good options eating out (omelets, salads, steak & veggies, etc.) I still allowed myself small treats throughout the week like dark chocolate or a mini froyo from Pinkberry. Nothing was off limits, but with this new healthier mindset and believing I was already there, I didn't really want the stuff that wasn't good for me.
I actually did get leaner! I couldn't believe it! All along, I wrongly thought I had to torture myself and be unhappy with my food and workouts if I wanted to look and feel like I belonged in the fitness industry.
My confidence grew - inside and outside the gym. I had more energy and focus because I wasn't draining myself with negativity and anxiety.
This new way of thinking got me focused - and fast. Suddenly things that used to be drudgery were FUN to me (ie. treadmill sprints) and I looked forward to doing them.
Once I took away all the pressure and negativity, I got what I wanted. I got happy with the body I had - and that allowed me to make it better.
This is the exact process I followed to prepare for my first photo shoot with Ariel Perez in November 2012, which was part of our membership in the Best of You Coaching Club.
I was really happy with how my photos turned out because I was happy with me. Period.
Now, any time I want to achieve a goal, this is the exact strategy I use, again and again, even now - four+ years later. No matter what the goal is or what even I'm preparing for, I know I have a plan:
Just follow The Best Advice Ever.
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